Refrain, at all costs, from yes or no questions.
Apparently, toddlers crave independence and seek out opportunities to be controlling. Who knew. Ha.
Melt down after melt down I couldn’t figure out what the problem was. Aisley has always been very compliant the first time she’s asked to do something. Her temperament is similar to mine and my husbands. Very passive, considerate, people conscious…etc.
So when she all of a sudden started throwing herself in the floor screaming and crying only to decide she’s all done and just fine 5 minutes later I was a little perplexed.
After regrouping during a nap time, I realized that if I phrased my questions with two viable options rather than soliciting a yes or a no (because the answer will ALWAYS be no) she would be given the ability to make a choice and get a sense of independence.
Immediate change. Immediate.
Here are some examples:
Dinner time- Rather than saying, “Are you ready to eat?” Say, “Would you like to eat with a fork or a spoon?”
Bath time- “Would you like a bath or a shower?” Rather than “Want to take a bath?”
Bed time- “Would you like to help turn off the light or wait by the rocking chair?”
She still has to eat, bathe, go to bed, etc…but by giving her some control she gets way less upset.
Got any good “mom tips”?